Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Oh, Come On

I went up to watch TV about 10:30.  I noticed a light on in one of the bedrooms and decided to see if someone was having a hard time sleeping or texting WAY past their bedtime.  It was the latter.  No biggie, I asked for the phone and scrolled down to see if she had been sending messages or just receiving.  She was guilty.  As I was leaving the room, I scanned the texts.  Inappropriate and shocking. The phone is now mine. 

My DH took a few minutes to look deeper into the messages after I told him. He found a picture.  It had been sent to someone in CA.  A friend of a friend, like that makes it better.  Then we noticed she had been exchanging texts with 2 boys.  One is the neighbor of the same friend.  I do not know if the friend had any idea it had happened.  I will be asking, she is usually pretty honest when caught so I will tell her Mom if she was. 

I believe this is the first time she has tried this crap.  It seemed both boys initiated. She is not innocent, by any means.  She was sobbing when she was caught.  That may be good, we'll have to see if it was for getting caught or she has shame.  I am disappointed.  I'll get over it.  She will make many more mistakes before we are through.  She has lost our trust again and that should hurt her pretty deeply, if she is as bonded as we believe.  If not, this will just help us dig in deeper.  The only person truly hurt by this is her.  It is just the icing on the cake for me.

Do not hesitate to let me know if you see a post that has revealed too much about a child in the earlier posts.  I appreciate it, Ania, I thought I had fixed all the posts regarding that child's name.  That is the only behavior I feel the need to hide, the rest are understandable or forgivable even by a complete stranger.  That one, not so much.   


Anonymous said...

If pictures are involved, law enforcement should be contacted.

FosterAbba said...

I second the call to law enforcement. I also think, after our own experience with cell phones, that kids do not need fully-capable phones for any reason.

They don't need to be calling their friends at all hours, and they don't need to be texting them either. A restricted phone that is capable of calling our home and cell phones is all she needs, and even that she'll only carry when she's going somewhere that it is absolutely necessary.

Anonymous said...

The only reason I'm saying law enforcement should be called is because anyone who knowingly asks a minor for explicit pictures should have a chat with the law, even if the person is a minor themselves. Please look into the laws in your state regarding "sexting". It's all over the news right now, especially with minors.