Thursday, February 14, 2008

The Flood Gates Have Opened

Ella asked to speak to me last night and with her sweet little smile I foolishly thought she was gonna talk about her Valentines. She eyed the open bathroom door where Emma and Ruthie were showering and asked if she could close the door. My heart dropped, I knew more was coming. She sat on my bed and told me of another time the abuse happened. Any flicker of a doubt I had that perhaps she could be repeating things she heard were gone. The things she described brought me to tears. She had been holding this in, no wonder this child still wets at night, no wonder she continues to be a victim. I have heard alot about sexual abuse, having been abused myself and I worked with predators , I don't break down easily from the stories. There is no way she could have over heard anything like this, she used her own words and descriptions, I was completely caught off guard. I will be speaking with the AT today and this will be reported, we will be discussing how it will all play out and if we should allow her to testify against them. She is very convincing and wants them to go to jail. She told me for the first time, she never wants to live with them again, they scare her.

When one of our kids tell us something horrific about their parents, we do a little family group and we talk a little about what was said, not details but a general chat. I ask them how they can support the child through this memory. We have learned alot this way, once they know someone else has revealed something someone else usually breaks down and adds a bit more from their side. It will trigger some of them. This time we didn't say who it was but that some thing was said, that's it. Ruthie went into the fetal position, started rocking, and sobbing. After a bit, she kinda freaked out. Everyone else left the room and she confessed. She has another story, sounds like Ella's but different. There is something that jumps out at you, the father only orchestrates, he never touches. The kids could not have made that up, they couldn't all have gotten that part the same. He is a very disturbed man and other children besides mine are involved.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

my heart is just breaking for your children...You are such a strong mom to take this all on and there is going to be a very special place for you in heaven...huge kudos to you for making their little lives so worth living...


DebiP

Lorie said...

Oh my....I'm sobbing reading this. Wow...that's really all I can say right now.

Innocent Observer said...

This is so horrible. I can't even imagine the trauma that your kids have been through.

It is exciting that they are finally feeling safe enough to open up to you. That just goes to show what an amazing mother you are!!!

My thoughts are with you as you travel this difficult (impossible for some!) path.

Kerry

Abby goes to Denmark! said...

Poor, poor kids. That's terrible that there are people out there in the world who can just DESTROY their children like that. It makes my heart ache for all of you. :(

You're all in my prayers...

Mongoose said...

I feel like throwing up. I don't think I'd have the courage to listen to the details, especially if they were MY children telling me in their own words.

You're an amazing woman.