Sunday, January 18, 2009

She Attacked the Kids

Patches continued to escalate again and again. I discovered she kicked a giant hole in the wall during her rage earlier in the day and calmly explained she had some chores to do to pay for it to be fixed. She seemed OK with it and headed to the kitchen. It took about 1 minute for her to lose it and begin a lovely tantrum leaving injured children in her wake. She threw a large wooden baby gate at Ruthie while she was holding the baby. She instinctively covered the baby with her body and hr shoulder took the brunt of the corner of the gate. Her shoulder is swollen and black. Patches then grabbed the mop still in the empty bucket and started beating at her general direction. I am not sure she was going after Ruthie or if it was just she was the nearest child. I was already across the room and took her to the ground before she could beat anyone else. She attempted to bite and scratch me but she was between a doorway and couldn't get a good grip. We were not in a traditional hold and luckily I was safe until she got a grip.

It took some time for her to calm down. My DH took the other kids to get candy while I filled Rosa in on what happened. I made sure to tell her all the things Patches needed to hear since she was in earshot. The kids are terrified of her. This is the first time she has attacked them with such force and for no reason. They have been afraid for some time but felt I kept them safe. That is no longer the case. They think she is too scary for Mom. I am not sure how or if we can change that for them. Rosa's kids were at their father's and missed the whole thing. I am not sure what their reactions would have been.

Patches insists she is telling her teacher on me. She has a couple of days to cool down and I hope she does. There is not a single mark on her. She has never been hurt by me. I still get worried at the threat, not nearly as worried as I did in the first couple of years.

9 comments:

Corrine said...

WOW...hard day.
I think she will calm down. I am hoping. And the thought of any accusation by patches, is scary. BUT..certainly will be unfounded. Anyone who knows you and what you are doing for theses children would know that.
Don't worry.

Yondalla said...

Oh dear. It is so difficult to do what is right for mulitiple children. Patches deserves to be loved and cared for. All the other children deserve to grow up in a home where they are safe. No one should have to live in fear.

I know this is a terribly difficult time for you. My prayers are with you.

Anonymous said...

What the fuck is your problem??? Why do you keep such a violent child in your home when the option to hospitalize her has been presented to you time and time again? You can't always be a saint, and what are you going to do when she SERIOUSLY injures one of your children? Send her to bed without milk and cookies? Seriously lady. Get your head out of your ass, look around you and stop waiting for the absolute WORST case scenario to do something about this.

cloudmaster said...

Definitely not a good day. I am sure she will get over it though and I certainly wouldn't worry. I wish I had an easy answer for you, but I am not sure there even is one.

cloudmaster said...

I just noticed the third comment. I never take any advice from someone who has to remain anonymous.

Shea said...

I am afraid for your entire family. You have so many children to protect. It is not fair for them to be in that home with her, especially the baby, if she does not have major issues already, she most certainly will living with patches. Please take the steps necessary to protect your family and yourself. I really do not want to see a post coming from you saying one of the kids are in the hospital or worse. I think you know what has to be done. It's very noble to save a child, but at the risk of loosing so many others, that is not sane. I am sorry if this came across as unfriendly or un caring, but I truly fear a disaster is about to occur. ~Hugs~

MJ said...

Many Many prayers coming your way. No one should ever have to chose between kids. I know you love patches as you love all the rest. Im so sorry that you are being put in this position. I will pray that you can make the best decision you can for the situation, no matter what the decision is.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous...what the heck is your problem??? If you spent any time at all on this blog, you would know that this woman is caring and honest...and never..I repeat..never tries to come off as a "saint". She is a mother. Plain and simple. Trying her hardest to do what is right for ALL her kids.

If you dont even have the decency to attach your name to a statement like you just made...then perhaps you should not comment.

Laurie Jackson

Marthavmuffin said...

I am so sorry for Patches and you and your family. I am praying for you all. Anonymous, do you think that was entirely necessary? And why hide behind Anon?