He came home with a sticker and a lollipop, I asked him where he got it and he told me the Principal gave it to him in his office. WTF? I am so upset about this, is this how we teach our children to consequences? This is absurd. They think he a little victim. I now know for sure they never watched the DVDs I gave them when we moved here. I can't blame them completely for falling for his pitifulness, he is so darn cute with his "deer in the headlight" look. Michael told me they asked him why he didn't come to school and he told them he was pitching a fit. Too bad that doesn't really describe what he was doing.I am all for suggestions on giving the school a clue!
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is it possible that you did not get the whole story from him?? Did you tell the school why he was not there the day he missed?? Maybe call them and ask about the sucker and go fro there...
You always do what is right go with your gut
I think the video idea could be a good one, just so they could possibly see his behaviors and how you act/react to him. Especially since he and the others are so adept at fooling people into their angelic acts, it could help them to see that you aren't just some crazy mom who can't handle the kids.
And I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this and feel that way. =( I hate those moments when you know you're right and they're wrong, but you can't help but be upset that they don't believe you on something.
Do you own a laptop? I think I would video him on a dvd recorder, doing his "thang". Then I would make an appointment with the principle in his office, bringing the laptop and make him watch it with you setting there. I know..I'm dreaming.
Okay, next suggestion. Refer him to this Blog for further education. I find it most informative.
I agree with what you and others have already suggested - if you (or your hubs) can video him when he is going off on one; then perhaps insist on a visit with the school with your AT along as well. Perhaps they will be more inclined (sorry to say) to listen to a professional working with your kids (though, goodness knows, they should be listening to you, the mom!) Also, having the AT along, might provide the opportunity to fill them in on your kids problems in detail (since they chose not to listen to what you said before). Having so often been in the position of begging parents for meetings/information etc, I really can't understand a school that is so determined to ignore it and undermine what you are doing. Good luck.
I wonder if he brought a gun to school they'd give him a Lexus? (kidding)
I agree with bringing in the AT and really discussing his true needs (outside of his smashing good looks) and um...how about say that his bio parents are just about to be arrested for sexual abuse (wink wink) gotta love that post traumatic stress disorder.
Ugh. I hate situations like that. I always feel like I border on taking my irritation w/ the adult who should have known better out on my kiddo (who does know better, but isn't going to say "um, no thanks, I don't deserve a sticker and lollipop.") May I ask how you handled it with your son?
Angela :-)
Angela, I asked him if he understood why I feel like he shouldn't have gotten a treat and he told me he thought it was weird b/c he should have gotten a consequence. Duh! He gave them both to me without even so much as a sound. I was really proud that he understood it even if the school did not.
Thanks guys for your support!
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