Apparently, our telephone company has a conspiracy against my child and our family. They claim that someone has been getting up in the middle of the night to make and receive calls over 125 times in the last month. Maybe it's just someone breaking in and calling my child's boyfriend and best friends. My child would never look at me and lie even with evidence in her face. She is so far past all this. She has grown and worked through so many of her issues. She knows she can trust me and that I always value honesty. If they are honest the consequence is always so much less.
Who would lie if you know being honest would benefit you? A teenager. Throw in some attachment issues and you will see a child look you right in the eye and deny the obvious. Some of this is normal teenage crap, some of this is left over from her need to protect herself.
I can't wait until I have 7 teenagers at once. Let the good times roll.
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It would be wrong to giggle, wouldn't it? So, I won't giggle. Maybe a little giggle.
But, oooo-weeee-boy, kids sure can stick to a story, can't they?
xoxo
Corey
My friends daughter, under similar circumstances, claimed that it was her father who called her boyfriend from her phone during school hours! Too funny!
Hey, I have a few teens like that right now - good times I tell ya. For some reason, every child in this house will lie to get the 16 yo in trouble "just because". What are the odds? We had a 5 hr. ordeal yesterday where the 16 yo was looking me in the eye and telling me that she wasn't wearing her younger sisters underwear (yeah, I know - gross). The evidence was ON her and she kept feigning shock that I didn't believe her. Then the inventive lies began about how she just wanted to change her u.w. the night before, but she'd forgotten to bring some from home (we were at our cabin) so she took a pair from the dresser that she thought were her older sisters (huh?) blah blah blah. It just made her look nuts. I finally stopped my tantrum (yeah, not a proud moment for me) and calmly said, "you may sit here in the bedroom until you're strong enough to come tell me the whole truth". It took 1 1/2 hrs. and she came out to tell me part of the truth. I calmly looked at her again and repeated my request - to come out when she was strong enough to tell the WHOLE truth - so off she went. I called her out for dinner and decided to change tactics. I told her that if she did not come clean by bedtime, that I would have no choice but to remove all clothing from her room and just hand her things each day as needed - bingo!! Within another hour she admitted all. I thanked her for finally doing the right thing and told her that next time she wouldn't get 5 hours of my time to decide what to do, I would just remove the clothes and we'd get on with our lives. The lies are just so crazy - but these kids cannot live like this!
no pat on the back, just a hug.
I have a 21 yo RAD, ADHD, Tourettes son who lives in my basement. Brilliant computer game wizard and proud of part-time "you want fries with that?".
He has no qualms when it comes to lying and has no idea of accepting responsibility for his actions. I've never found a good way to deal with it, just go off and he caters to me to shut me up. Add a 5 year old RAD, PDD, PTSD, LD, Dyspraxia< and more and a 45 yo dyslexic hillbilly and we are the 3 stooges at times. I'm the referee for a house full of boys (even the dogs are male) so I have had to build a sense of patience and humor. Or I'd be running down the street, pulling my hair out, and screaming!
I blame the hacker....must have a vendetta against her to hack in to her phone and make all those calls. Poor thing.
Maybe you should take the time to monitor who your child is talking to and at what times. Seems like a parenting issue that you are skirting. Your child is a child. In one instance, she is an innocent victim...in another, you are forcing her to be responsible. Make up your mind. Clearly, she doesn't trust you...but you will blame that on her being a teenager... Seems like you should take a long, hard look in the mirror...
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