I also found out today when talking to the kids' paternal Gma that her brother had been raped by their father. Her brother raped her. Her Ex-husband raped his daughters and had his son (their father) rape his daughters. His son violated my children. My children have violated each other and my Gson. I felt sick to my stomach.
I spoke briefly to Aunt M and she received a letter written by another inmate for my kids' Mother. It wasn't clear but what she gathered is that the mother is going to plead guilty and serve an eternity in jail. She didn't want her family to forget her and she was asking for support to handle the any years in jail she was bound to serve. I was told by the victim's advocate on Monday that the trial may be postponed due to a new witness issue. She said it was good news and don't be upset b/c it will help the case. Could it be true? Please pray if that's your thing or send some good thoughts this way. They will still have to testify but they will only face the evil behind the deed, their father. They all feel she was a victim, too, just in a different way.
About Me
- Tudu
- Deep South, United States
- I am the mother of 10 children, 6 are part of a large sibling group we adopted through foster care in 2006, 2 are our grown foster daughters, 2 are from independent infant adoptions in 2001 and 2008. Every one of them have their own issues to work through from Schizo-Affective Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Complex PTSD, Reactive Attachment Disorder, Sensory Integration Dysfunction, ADHD, and Cerebral Palsy. Most of our children have been victims of sexual abuse by a close family member, most acted out sexually or exhibited predatory behaviors. We are currently trying to figure out where the trauma ends and mental illness begins in each of their lives.
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I am amazed at how long this is taking with the trial. So much for speedy.
I'm new to your story, which is obviously a humdinger.
I don't know that anyone could read what you've learned and not be nauseous.
I'm glad Michael was able to speak up about 'the man,' which must have been terrifying at best. I can't imagine being left anywhere at that age, much less a locked facility, nor can I imagine leaving my child there.
Actually, though, I can't bring myself to even THINK of any of that happening to my children.
Lots of prayers headed your way - for all of you - from NC....
Helen/'Lucy'
I am so sorry for your sad circumstances. The children are so blessed that you adopted them. I adopted my 2 nieces and their brother. there was a lot of drug and alcohol use during all of the pregnancies. When things get impossible at our house we have to remind ourselves where the kids would be if we had not rescued them. For 2 years we constantly had someone in the hospital. Sometimes it would be two at a time. We've had a total of 32 admissions. We did not think we would survive the trauma and sadness of leaving them and seeing and feeling their pain but not being able to change it. If it had not been for the prayers and love of our friends and family and church we could not have made it. You are an amazing mom and I know things will get better. We no longer have to dread everyone getting up in the morning and we can actually all be in the same room without violent outbursts.
I am sending love and prayers for you.
Great Gran
I hope that somehow the cycle can be broken. When it festers in a family from generation to generation like that it's such a horrible thing.
What a tragedy, what a loss. And what a blessing that you are there to step in the middle, and help prevent the cycle from continuing any further.
I'm slightly sick just hearing it...can't imagine what you must be feeling as they're your babies...lots of hugs and so glad they have you to help them process all this stuff...hugs.
I am new to your blog....I will be back to read more soon....Love your post....Just blog hopping and enjoyed reading your blog. I love reading about new blog friends....
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Prayer. This is definitely my thing, so I will be praying for your family and this entire situation.
You've been really busy writing since I last checked on you all.
God has definitely given you these precious treasures for a reason. You are so amazing in how you love them and parent them. I'm learning so so much from you- and praying for you as you continue walking thru this journey.
I'm so amazed at the human capacity to keep going, keep moving forward, keep trying and growing and even thriving at times. Your children are so so strong and so are you.
God bless each of you!
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