Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Trick or Treating at the Mall

The picture is horrible and my phone is to blame. I can't see what I am taking a picture of and tend to just shoot and hope. My kids are in the middle and the other children around us are there with the Mommy Group I just joined.

What is it about being old that makes it so difficult to meet friends? I had a ton of friends growing up, long lasting friendships that only faded away after I married and quit going to parties and drinking marathons. We have a few friends we really enjoy in our RAD support group and I have my favorite person in the whole world, my sister Kiki but that is it. I have many of you that I care about, I even talk about you like I know you but are we friends? No, not really. I am a good friend and do tend to attract needy people who latch on and wear me down until I have to hide from them. My best friend for over 15 years has BiPolar and I finally just stopped calling her and our friendship faded away. Trust me it needed to. She is a story for a rainy day. She is Emma's natural cousin and her Mother adopted Emma's sister Kendal.

I did have a point before I rudely went off on a tangent about my ex friend. How do you met friends? I have resorted to online friendship dating of sorts. I met a really nice lady, at least what I could tell she seemed nice. I really spent the evening chasing her around the mall with our 9 kids between us. She was a woman after my own heart, fast paced to get the job done. I loved it. Her older daughter was a vampiress and her make up was beautifully done.

I made one big mistake and as soon as I said it I wished I hadn't, I told her I blogged and when she asked for the address I gave it to her. I am sure she will have nightmares after seeing who my children really are behind closed doors. I only hope she would keep in mind, they have come a long way. They are wonderful children that are doing their best to fit into a world they don't understand, a real family. They are harmless to others yet self destructive. They are learning social ques that other children pick up as babies. They may look like they are 9 but they are really only about 3 socially and emotionally. Your children are safe b/c it is my job to protect any one near them and while teaching mine to mimic a normal child to fit in.


Innocent Observer said...

Oh, don't stress. Your blog won't scare her away. And you know what? A common theme in my house right now is "if the friendship is worth it you have a difficult conversation" and "some friendships have an expiration date".

I had two difficult conversations this week that I would never have bothered with friends from 5 years ago. But it was so important to me to keep these friends that I did it. My son needs to do it and is working up to it.

So if she gets weird after reading, ask her about it. It sounds like she could be a good friend!

catherine said...

Your blog is what draws me to you and makes me wish that I lived closer so I *could* be your friend. Your writing shows what a funny, kind, compassionate person you are...and it takes a special person to lay it out there like you do.

I know what you mean about it being harder to make friends as we age. It is simply because we don't have the same opportunities to be "thrown together" with other men and women as we did as kids (school, sports, scouts, etc.) and younger adults (work, social) - and we have so many other responsibilities with kids, it doesn't leave much time. Because I've worked from home for the last 8 years - and recently moved to a new city/state - I have only a few friends and so far, after a year of living here, have not made one new friend! Sad but to be expected I guess, since I have been holed up with a now 9-month old since last February.

Anyway, you're not alone, that's for sure. I think those who have a wide circle of friends, as adults, are in the minority.