Thursday, January 21, 2010

Kids Are Good

Actually, the kids are great! When someone isn't constantly setting you off, you don't have as many blow ups. They are sad but relieved they are gone.

I got a call from the school yesterday asking if I still had custody of the kids. Wierd, huh? Rosa removed her children from school yesterday morning so I wonder if it is just a coincidence. Probably not. Monday afternoon she called the police on me claiming I threatened to throw her stuff outside and had assaulted her leg. Way off from the truth. I offered to put her stuff on the carport so we didn't have to interact all day. She refused to speak to me and kept acting like I was about to hurt her kids in front of the kids. I shut of the vacuum and pulled the cord to remove it from the room. I asked her to move her foot several time and she insisted on calling the kids to look at how I was hurting her. Later, they talked about how she acted like they do and wanted to know why since she was an adult.

I was very angry at how she was blaming me for all her problems and wasn't nice. SHe blamed my kids for her child's outbursts, claimed I forced her children to take drugs, somehow she has made it in her mind that I made up all their issues, and I threw her out. Her view of what happened is very distorted and sad. It shows how little she cared about me. I will be fine but our relationship will never recover. She said some things to one of the kids that was inappropriate and many do not want to see her again. We all will miss the kids. You know, the ones she claims I have mistreated and abused. I'm glad it's over, my house is calm and whine free. My MIL couldn't believe the difference in the kids. I will never allow another person to stay with us, ever. I'm cured of helping grown kids.

8 comments:

Innocent Observer said...

I'm so glad that it's over. I know that there was a lot more that you didn't share with us over the last year and a half.

(((hugs)))

Totally OT, but I have a bunch of Chuck E Cheese coupons, do you want me to send you some?

Melissa said...

I hope your family continues to heal and that she doesn't cause any trouble for you. It is so sad that after all you have done for her, she can treat you this way. She sounds like she STILL has a lot of growing up to do and hopefully someday she will realize all that you did for her and finally be grateful.

Jennie said...

OH! my heart is hurting for you and all this pain! I know you will miss the grands...

Kelly said...

Bless you Tudu for putting your heart on the line. I am so sorry things ended this way after all you have done for her and her children. Glad to hear things are going well with your kiddos.

Tudu said...

Thanks for the support through this mess.

Kerry, we'd love the coupons!

FosterAbba said...

I am sorry that things ended so badly. You did the right thing, even if it feels lousy.

Sending good thoughts your way.

J. said...

you did do the right thing. I hope the rest of the week is better.

Annie said...

Even though there has been so much fallout, I think you did a good thing trying to provide her with the best support you could. Even if there's anger there now, it might occur to her in the future that you provided her with the sort of support she NEEDED so badly. Anyway, you did your best.