What restraints do you find the you use the most?
I was trained years ago and I am sure there are more effective and safer methods of holding my children. I really only regularly have to hold Michael and Ruthie. I only hold them when they are attacking me, another person, themselves, or are destroying (expensive) property. The issue I am having is that I am getting hurt lately. If I hold them flat on the floor with me at their shoulders and their arms at their side, they kick me in the back and pinch me to the point of bleeding on the hands or side. I occasionally do a basket hold but they are able to squirm out of my arms by almost dislocating their shoulders. I have come up with one on my own that is me on my knees over their rear end with their hands in a position you see officers do. I am not putting any pressure on their rear ends and it works fabulously until my legs fall asleep after about 20 minutes or someone sees me and thinks I am crushing my child. It seems the best for both of us except my poor legs.
I got hurt again today. My neck this time and I can't turn it to the left. Thank you Ruthie. Cyr did enjoy video taping it today and we will be sharing it with Ruthie tonight. She will be quite surprised and ashamed at how awful she treats me. I would be happy to put it online here but her camera is awful and you can't make anything out due to the dark. I can tell you all you are missing is a bunch of "I hate you." "You are the meanest mom" I want to go live with my real parents" You are so fat" "You are not popular" "I'm telling so and so that you hurt me" "I will kill you" and "You are hurting me" over and over.
I have tried to look online for training but can't seem to find any. I can't live with these children without holding them, we would be making many trips to the hospital each week. I can't wait to try Risperdal with Ruthie, I think it will help her tremendously.