Rosa is in her twenties and we will not be raising her children. LOL Nothing will actually change from the way it is now other than we will be able to legally claim her. That means so much to us. She lived her childhood out in foster care and she feels like she is our family but legally she is not. This has been a very sore spot for her and her soon to be ex has always down played our part as her family. I think at times made her question her own sense of belonging to us.
She has no contact with her birth parents and sees them for who they are. She has tried to warn her siblings about them b/c they were so little. She is very much like Cyr. She even gets chills recognizing it herself when she sees Cyr and my DH together. They both have a very flat affect and find very little joy in life. She is a fighter like no other. I think her influence on Cyr may be just what helps Cyr. This is not her role but I think it will be something that comes out of her being back in our lives. She is a thoughtful and helpful person, she will do all she can to wake up the person in Cyr.
Yes, I am a Nana. I have been for 6 yrs. Her children are (hope you don't mind my sharing their names, Rosa) Alyssa is 6, Eddie is 5, and Gia 2.
I think I have covered all your questions, any more?