Friday, November 14, 2008

Introducing Kiera


Bare with me, I am trying to adjust to everything and blogging seems to be one thing that is neglected. I feel like my life has just sped off without me. I am exhausted but so excited that I don't mind the lack of sleep.

My DH and I went today to file the LG paperwork. It took much longer than we expected to just get the receipt and while we were waiting my DH ran his mouth about this baby to every one that would listen. One old man was holding a trash can and listening to him go on and on. I figured he was the janitor but it turned out to be the Judge and he told us to hang on and he would process it immediately. We walked out of the courthouse today the LG of Kiera Jade (They called her Jade but we are going with Kiera. It sounds less likely to be her stage name. LOL). They mentioned after we were done that to dissolve the LG, both parents had to petition the courts to drop it and they had to prove they were fit parents. Then when I called the CW to tell her she called me the new Mommy. She told me she will be sending a note to the courts that the mother has an open case with them and she will need to work a plan to get her back. The mother has been very clear that she will not do that ever again. The father refuses to believe she is his b/c he was in jail. He also said he would do whatever it took to be sure she didn't get to ruin another little girl's life. He is willing to sign over his rights today. There is little or no chance of Kiera going anywhere, her sister was already abandoned by their mother and she is now facing a felony child abandonment charge for it.

All the other kids seem to be fine with her here. They are really sweet to her and want to help way too much. Ava is very jealous and I worry about her hurting the baby in the future so she is closely monitored. Cyr and Patches are taking turns chasing her away from the stairs.

Kiera is showing some obvious attachment related issues. She is not making eye contact. Affection is on her own terms. She didn't cry but now cries all the time for attention. She is completely freaked out when I leave the room and is inconsolable. She will go to a complete stranger. She fights me when I try to feed her her bottle in my lap. She tries to drink it walking around and just lets it hang from her mouth. Needless to say, I will be wearing her for months as soon as I can find the darn sling I bought as a gift for my friend Eve but never gave her.

Lisa, the invitation link won't work.

Everyone that has emailed me, please be patient. I promise to get to them. There have been so many that I can't even read them all. Thanks for your support.

I am dying to catch up on all the blogs I usually read daily. I have no idea what is going on with anyone.

P. S. Tomorrow is our first anniversary of our adoption of the kids. I am sure they have forgotten and I am not sure I should tell them until it's almost over.

15 comments:

Jensboys said...

Your new daughter is gorgeous! Enjoy wearing your new "cling-on" :)

Congrats!

Jen

Kelly said...

I wore my last baby. I loved it!!! She is adorable!

Anonymous said...

OH my gosh she is gorgeous!!!! Keep giving her all that love! She will realize very quickly you are her Mommy. Oh gosh I can't wait to meet her!! My baby is 6 months old already!!!

Ali

Essie said...

congradulations, what a beautiful little girl you are adding to your family!

The Bus Driver said...

yay i'm so glad Kiera is not going anywhere EVER. Thank God for a smart father who knew the situation and put his trust in you to raise his daughter. After a certain amount of time of LG, can you petition the court for a full on adoption? Is there a difference between LG and Adoption? I think there is, but thats new territory for me.

On the first anniversary - I think the older ones will grasp and understand the magnitude of it, but I'd worry about bringing up old memories that they've tried hard to forget or aren't ready to deal with through therapy. I think though, it can become a very special day in your family as its the date of their forever home.

How long had you had them before the adoption?

Abby goes to Denmark! said...

YAAAAAAAAY! Congrats on getting it all settled! And good luck with the sling and all; I hope it doesn't bother your hips. :(

Tudu said...

The Bus Driver, there is a big difference between LG and adoption. With adoption she would take our name, we would legally be her parents, and her parents would no longer have any of their rights to her and could never regain custody. In LG they retain their rights, she retains her name, and they have the ability to petition the courts to regain custody b/c they are still her parents legally.

We had the kids 1.5 yrs when we finally were allowed to adopt them.

Carmine Crayon said...

She's just beautiful! Are you ok with LG, or do you think someday her mother will allow you to adopt?

Abby goes to Denmark! said...

Quick question, am I right in guessing her name is pronounced like "Kee-ra" and not like "Key-ah-ra"??

Tudu said...

Abby, it is 'Kee-ra'.

Carmen, I am fine with LG. If she stays indefinitely, we would prefer to adopt. Her mother has made it clear to her friend and family that she probably won't try to get her back b/c of DFCS. We'll cross that bridge when we get there. For now she is adored and a joy to be around.

katiemama0607 said...

Hi Tudu, I have been following your blog for a long time but don't comment much. Anyway if you can't find your sling I have a Peanut Shell pouch sling I'm no longer using, size Large. I would be glad to send it to you if you need it.

Katie

Michelle said...

LOL! Okay, I'm not even finished reading your blog on this one, and I had to comment. My daughter wants to know why I'm laughing...

"...less likely to be her stage name" LOL. You are too funny...and truthful.

Kath said...

Wow! She's gorgeous! And I love the name Keira, my best friends niece is called Keira :D

Congratulations!

Lisa said...

When we got our daughter, her name was Tasha and that was the first thing that popped into my head, "Well, wouldn't that be a nice stage name?" hahahaha - she was only 2 1/2 at the time but a year and a half later, when her adoption was finalized, she was told she could pick another name if she wanted and she chose Jessica (whew - I could live with that). We left her middle name Marie, but changed it to that spelling from Merie (sounds like Marie, but they wanted to be creative-hmmm). The creepy part is, she had never seen it spelled any other way but with the "a" and when she started school at 5 and I was having her practice writing her entire name she would randomly change the "a" to an "e" on Marie - maybe bad spelling was genetic? Keira is a doll - I hope she can learn to trust you (quickly) and start to heal.

ania said...

"One old man was holding a trash can and listening to him go on and on. I figured he was the janitor but it turned out to be the Judge...."

Kiera is such a cutie. Your entire family is beautiful, though.