tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post8094677073340226266..comments2023-07-29T10:18:53.786-04:00Comments on Finishing Off My Family: A Room, An Evil Mom, and A Sick FriendTuduhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02905378586653219136noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-9395165593876269512007-10-06T13:50:00.000-04:002007-10-06T13:50:00.000-04:00disgusted with you, I understand you have no idea ...disgusted with you, I understand you have no idea the hell my son is in and that I have nothing to do with the cause. Please go back and read any of my posts regarding his psychiatric history and you wil see I am fully trained how to provide my son with a safe restraint until he is able to control himself. He usually needs me to hold him until he cries, this lets me know he is no longer out of control (screamming, hitting, biting, kicking, or spitting on either myself or my other children). He is fully aware I love him and will do what is necessary to help him. He has a disorder called Reactive Attachment Disorder that his first family and years in fostercare have given him. We are trying to maintain his outrageous behavior so he does not have to live in a mental hospital but in a loving capable family environment. I know it sounds weird having to restrain your child and most do not wish this for a way of life but I assure you if I did not hold him when he is in this state people get hurt, himself included. <BR/><BR/>Over the last year and a half we have seen great improvements and hope things for him continue this way. He is adored and safe here with us. I can relate to your immediate anger at reading that post, I wasn't as clear as I could have been. I am dealing with the fallout of a very sad and abusive history. He is not EVER hurt in a restraint only held until he is able to control his own anger and is moved to tears instead of violence.Tuduhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02905378586653219136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-975856354240754182007-09-20T21:54:00.000-04:002007-09-20T21:54:00.000-04:00I hope your friend comes through all right.As usua...I hope your friend comes through all right.<BR/><BR/>As usual your boy reminds me of "Him". I couldn't believe how He laid a beating on the two biggest cops in town. :( But the positive thing about it is, He was very capable of controling himself when he chose to. Impulse control develops with age so I have faith that your boy will improve too.Mongoosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13545512692510569390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-29174419086127342512007-09-20T15:33:00.000-04:002007-09-20T15:33:00.000-04:00Don't count your friend out. We have actually know...Don't count your friend out. We have actually known a few people with funky brain tumors who are living perfectly normal lives now. I'll keep her in my thoughts.<BR/><BR/>Kids tattle things to get a reaction, as you already know. It can open up an entire can of worms. Ugh. We assured our kids that the adults always talk and that I will always find out what they said. With one kid I pointed out that what she said hurt a sibling, parent, another foster parent, me (the original target!) and her as well. She was shocked that her words did that; she just wanted me to look bad, but in fact made herself look bad too. But if there isn't empathy yet... Hang in there!<BR/><BR/>KerryKerryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09235941490505824539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-20921064342411342002007-09-20T02:09:00.000-04:002007-09-20T02:09:00.000-04:00Wow. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate r...Wow. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. I don't know everything about this particular situation but I would suggest leaning on your husband for support at this time. Things will get better. I will also pray for your friend as well. Good Luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-12383819148222026282007-09-19T14:38:00.000-04:002007-09-19T14:38:00.000-04:00Wow....much love. You are an amazing parent. He'll...Wow....much love. You are an amazing parent. He'll get there....just hang on.<BR/><BR/>Love and prayers to your friend....boy can life be challenging at times. I hope for the best for her. Take care of you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10319930897236152760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-63151224624775721612007-09-18T16:59:00.000-04:002007-09-18T16:59:00.000-04:00Please be careful and my prayers are with youPlease be careful and my prayers are with yougrams--gghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00224753608080733463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-52308164393620421002007-09-18T13:22:00.000-04:002007-09-18T13:22:00.000-04:00My 40 pound son cant carry a jug of milk. It is a...My 40 pound son cant carry a jug of milk. It is amazing what all that rage in our (hurt) kids can do. <BR/><BR/>As you know, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your friend, and her family. And I will throw in some prayers for your son too!<BR/><BR/>JenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com