tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post7697976878758181250..comments2023-07-29T10:18:53.786-04:00Comments on Finishing Off My Family: StressTuduhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02905378586653219136noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-41458477532576728882010-09-09T06:26:28.171-04:002010-09-09T06:26:28.171-04:00BTDT - it is so...hard to parent these kids. We g...BTDT - it is so...hard to parent these kids. We give and give and ultimately have to come to the conclusion that they need to do their part to make any of it work. We can't do the work to heal them for them, but it's extremely easy to get sucked into that mind-set. Once we're so entrenched we can't see clearly, we realize that our stress levels are not normal (usually crazily over the top before we realize it) and probably haven't been for ages. It wears us down, makes us say and do silly, crazy, hurtful things to the very people who are supposed to be our supports, our spouses. Let him vent, but make sure he knows you are in this TOGETHER and that the kids (and their issues) are just a period in your lives. When they're grown and gone, you'll still be there for each other.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-1754026478205003022010-09-07T21:22:12.269-04:002010-09-07T21:22:12.269-04:00do it in the van! DO IT!!!do it in the van! DO IT!!!Integrity Singerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-3915158331762922232010-09-07T20:13:44.713-04:002010-09-07T20:13:44.713-04:00It is so hard when you have different coping style...It is so hard when you have different coping styles and are under that much stress. I know how it feels to KNOW you are losing a parent and are unable to do anything about it. I have also played the waiting game, where placement dates are out of your hands. {{{Hugs}}}GB's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866513131959998883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-60711157344098122802010-09-07T19:29:38.255-04:002010-09-07T19:29:38.255-04:00Thanks to KiKi! You guys need a week-end alone so...Thanks to KiKi! You guys need a week-end alone somewhere out of town. If it is possible, after the kids go to the hospital, I will be happy to come out and spend the week-end. My better half can stay home and see what its like to be alone! I wish Michael would realize I am not going anywhere soon! That 3 years is the Dr. idea, not mine!.. I have to dance at Cyr's wedding and go to all the graduations for high school and college. I love you all!!!vtsga2@yahoo.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14038251825673537122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-4431062079642667272010-09-07T19:19:41.372-04:002010-09-07T19:19:41.372-04:00I have to go with sis's advice. It works for u...I have to go with sis's advice. It works for us anyway (I know..TMI)cshellzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05962995921020881222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-13652495583797463932010-09-07T18:21:47.196-04:002010-09-07T18:21:47.196-04:00You know Shel and I had a huge "fight" t...You know Shel and I had a huge "fight" this week and I know my stress level has been above my coping (and we arent dealing with what you are). I finally realized that probably the majority of that is the fact under the surface I am completely, thoroughly terrified about what my dad is going through. I cant BE the parent when such a big part of me feels like a child - a child of a sick parent. Its scary, and I realize that I am not coping AT ALL because of that. <br /><br />Hugs to both of you - living with me with brutal right now :) so I can understand both your husband and your stresses.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04552918781072146852noreply@blogger.com