tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post4537736837165316225..comments2023-07-29T10:18:53.786-04:00Comments on Finishing Off My Family: Sharing Without SayingTuduhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02905378586653219136noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-91743081873721284952010-08-16T23:46:01.523-04:002010-08-16T23:46:01.523-04:00Everyone knows you exhausted every single option. ...Everyone knows you exhausted every single option. The other children that once seemed so traumatized (Cyr, Ella, Ava) are well on their way to healing which shows your true efforts and dedication to your children. Some children just need that extra help and care (RTC). I hope one day she will heal and move on from her past. I have so much faith she will, just as Cyr did. I am so devastated and stunned over this news, I cannot even imagine how you feel. Please let me know if I can ever be of any help. My thoughts, support, and prayers are always with your family.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15724876493378871111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-6077465424760764092010-08-14T08:18:12.031-04:002010-08-14T08:18:12.031-04:00Your therapist is right, if you had all of these s...Your therapist is right, if you had all of these safeguards in place (I don't do half of that and it's exhausting to me already, I am humbled by your dedication) and she worked this hard to get around them, she was absolutely going to do it. The one thing I am most surprised by is that she hasn't gotten in trouble at school where there is considerably less supervision.<br /><br />You have done EVERYTHING you can -I think I wrote that to you months ago and you still kept doing MORE. The best thing you can do for her right now is to keep her away from the kids and get her professional in-patient help. Good luck.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-88087399505901296682010-08-13T20:06:00.883-04:002010-08-13T20:06:00.883-04:00***sorry if this double posted but my browser just...***sorry if this double posted but my browser just crashed so i wanted to make sure***<br /><br />Tudu...<br />I don't comment much but I want you to know that I've read every single one of your entries and because of you (and some other foster/adoption bloggers as well, but you were the first) I've learned that the ultimate achievement for me in overcoming my abusive upbringing will be to help others overcome theirs. It's a long term goal for me as I still have a lot of baggage from the past to work through, but I know I'll get there. I've been in such dark places and been nearly zombified by meds and told I would most likely not make it out in the world on my own. Now I'm med free, strong enough to keep it together without constant therapy and hospitalizations, and married to a loving man. I think your girl will get to where I am. She's still really young and she has your love NOW, not at age 18 like the age I was when I started to heal. Just look at how far Cyr has come -- you continued to believe in her even when I thought it was impossible for you to pull it off and keep your family together. Your child in trouble now (I think I've figured out who) is a different person but you're not. I know you can do this. You are my hero every day.zell_zytehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03574556296859046854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-77220532034018602682010-08-13T13:42:41.787-04:002010-08-13T13:42:41.787-04:00Tudu, I am sorry that this is happening to you and...Tudu, I am sorry that this is happening to you and your family. You are amazing and are an inspiration for so many of us.<br /><br />EJEmmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15453948129003575568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-41832842296506184002010-08-13T13:41:04.436-04:002010-08-13T13:41:04.436-04:00So sorry to hear that your family is having to dea...So sorry to hear that your family is having to deal with this. You are being the best mom possible by getting her the help she so desperately needs. Unfortunately you may never feel that she is safe to come home but you have done everything in her best interest and you have to protect your other children!MyLindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13129596870030033711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-28790816370410209992010-08-13T13:20:01.240-04:002010-08-13T13:20:01.240-04:00Anyone who has "known" you for any lengt...Anyone who has "known" you for any length of time knows how much you wanted this family to be safe with each other and to be whole. You can't un-do this damage. All you can do is love them, even if you have to love them from a distance. I'm praying for you, keep your head up, you have made a difference in SO many lives. Including my own, you've changed the way I love, appreciate and protect my own children. Sending love and prayers your way, daily!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03091362651489461567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-21679278078113409062010-08-13T12:30:03.644-04:002010-08-13T12:30:03.644-04:00I am so sorry for you and your family. I have hear...I am so sorry for you and your family. I have heard therapists and psychiatrists recommend RCT for three of mine, over the years, and it is very hard to conceive that a child you love is that sick. {{{Hugs}}}GB's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866513131959998883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-70466021212382661002010-08-13T12:10:49.564-04:002010-08-13T12:10:49.564-04:00My heart goes out to you. I think we can all read...My heart goes out to you. I think we can all read between the lines if you are unable to publicly post it. You don't have too. I pray for you daily and will continue to do so. I am sorry about your loss of safety and I have no doubt that you have done everythingto help this child. My fear? I look up to you and the actions you have taken to keep your kids safe, cameras, monitoring, etc are nothing short of amazing. I am scared that even with all those safeguards in place this happened to your family. Should I fear the worse for my own.<br /><br />You are an insanely strong mom. Don't ever forget that!<br /><br />We will continue to pray....Brandy-new rad momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16312863176518999375noreply@blogger.com