tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post4435230467225204693..comments2023-07-29T10:18:53.786-04:00Comments on Finishing Off My Family: Christmas FiascoTuduhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02905378586653219136noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-9923646822719623482009-12-30T19:42:39.604-05:002009-12-30T19:42:39.604-05:00my first thought is cameras as well. if you are no...my first thought is cameras as well. if you are not protected who is going to protect your other kids?MamaKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05106422985209239592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-63146479139969886212009-12-30T07:10:22.616-05:002009-12-30T07:10:22.616-05:00Have you considered installing security cameras in...Have you considered installing security cameras in your home that video tape all events? Your kids would either start to behave really well ... or once they got used to them being there, then you'd finally be able to have evidence of what happens. It would serve as a means to protect you legally, but it might also offer insight to educators and medical professionals who are trying to assess your children's conditions.Lindanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-75068224936737908982009-12-30T00:03:15.047-05:002009-12-30T00:03:15.047-05:00Are those nannycams an option? So sorry to hear th...Are those nannycams an option? So sorry to hear that you (and he) were hurt so much in this latest episode. =(Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09578841478321331243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-70851284429470630132009-12-29T13:55:00.376-05:002009-12-29T13:55:00.376-05:00I am sure the idea of putting in cameras has been ...I am sure the idea of putting in cameras has been addressed before. I used to work closely with the loss prevention specialists at the dept store where I worked. They had these tiny cameras that were about the size of a quarter, hooked into a vcr that was out of the way and hidden. We changed the tapes every few days or so and the camera recorded everything in it's range. <br /><br />I can't imagine how frustrating it is to be constantly worrying about false accusations. Hopefully soon Michael's doctors will be able to come up with doses that work for him like with Patches. <br /><br />I hope you and your family have a Happy New Year!Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11862859593554570480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-18664440652092259362009-12-29T13:50:16.269-05:002009-12-29T13:50:16.269-05:00Tudu I worry about you. You just don't deserve...Tudu I worry about you. You just don't deserve the pain he puts you in - both physically and the emotional stress and worry. What about putting up some discreet cameras (and don't let the kids knwo they are there) to catch his acting out <br /><br />To protect you from allegations?<br /><br />Nobody deserves to be battered. He has all the power right now and probably wont stop until you can protect yourself in some way.<br /><br />I was battered as a child by my brother who also went into uncontrollable rages, and did things like hit me in the head with a hammer, smash my books and games, throw heavy items at me.<br /><br />I spent many hours barricaded in my room away from him. <br /><br />I still don't trust him and thus will not let him stay with my family when he visits from over 2000 miles away.<br /><br />I wish you safety and peace.Marthavmuffinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10358324554568167553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-68879510092072657142009-12-29T13:28:11.151-05:002009-12-29T13:28:11.151-05:00well i hope that even tho through all the drama th...well i hope that even tho through all the drama that the kids enjoyed their gifts and things. there is another box on the way as well.<br /><br />rissa from lmwAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-23208805022864230662009-12-29T13:21:06.878-05:002009-12-29T13:21:06.878-05:00Wow, that sucks. I think you are right to be conc...Wow, that sucks. I think you are right to be concerned about allegations (obviously). I'm sorry you got hurt.Emmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15453948129003575568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21448744.post-18997019145773300432009-12-29T13:14:48.401-05:002009-12-29T13:14:48.401-05:00I think the same things when my kids get the sligh...I think the same things when my kids get the slightest mark. It is so ridiculous that we live like this - worrying about explaining the whole thing to every new person we cross paths with. I used to always think "where there's smoke, there's fire" regarding allegations of abuse (this was when I was much younger and had ZERO experience with traumatized kids) - and I guess I believe that every time cps gets another complaint about us, that's what they must think too. I know that just because we've had an investigation (or six) that doesn't make us child abusers - I know we aren't. Everyone else seems to think there must be something cps is just missing if it keeps happening though..... I complained to the cps worker the last time that she really should look at the allegations and KNOW that this is the same old stuff - and it's always been unsubstantiated and her response was basically that as foster or adoptive parents, we are held to a much higher standard when it comes to cps complaints. That all of the foster/adoptive parents in her office have very thick files due to all the complaints called in. Huh? Does that make it right? Does it make any sense even? All I know if that I cannot fail to parent out of fear. I have a few kids who will make me pay if I say no to any request (no matter how outrageous) - it's always just a matter of how much.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.com